Educating children on how to handle their bully is one of the biggest help for a child. Parents need to step in and help teach the child that bullying is an unacceptable behavior and be there to give their child support. If one method doesn’t work try another.
Fighting violence with violence is not the answer. Teaching your child to fight back physically is the wrong step, like the saying goes “Two wrongs don’t make a right”. Most times the child that is being victimized is actually weaker and smaller than the bully, so the fear of losing may be real ( Marano, 2010). In some case this method can work, but not in all especially in my case.
There are different tactics to use when dealing with a bully. Parents just need to become more proactive and help their child find one that works. Sitting down and coming up with clever comebacks to use when they are being verbally abused by the bully ( Marano, 2010). It’s nothing fighting words with words, plus giving the opening to walking away from the bully while they’re thinking of a comeback.
Find a friend. Having a friend on the playground with the child is the most effective method ( Marano, 2010). This strategy implies the safety in numbers, because what bully is going to want to take on a group of kids? Plus having friends that are supportive helps the child gain self-esteem and confidence.
In high school bullying stopped for me because I developed more friendships in high school than I had in elementary or middle school. Being that I was picked on a lot in school I don’t take little to seeing fellow peers being picked on, especially if it’s friends or loved ones. One instance in high school I can remember was I observed four girls pushing around one, lone girl and calling her names. That already was unfair four against one. One of my friends and I stepped in and told them to back off. I offered to walk her to the principal’s office or even to her next class. I feel like I just can’t stand by and watch that after all I’ve been through. I just wish someone had been there to stand up for me.
Marano, H., (2010, March 30) Top Strategies for Handling a Bully. Psychology Today.com. Retrieved February 27, 2011, from the World Wide Web:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brainstorm/201003/top-strategies-handling-bully.
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